There are many times where I would like to say: “you’re in my prayers”. Friends going through a loss, or a sickness; need for hopeful and powerful energy; the occasions over the past few years have, unfortunately, been countless. All I can think is “I’ll pray for you, I’m far away, that’s the least I can do.”
Except that… I don’t pray.
If you are religiously engaged and think that people without religion are heretics, please stop reading now. I don’t want to offend you. I don’t want to start a debate around religion. I just want to state a fact.
I don’t believe in religion. I believe they exist, but I don’t believe they’re a spiritual need. I believe you can be spiritual without being religious.
While I was raised catholic, I freed myself from any religious attachment around 17 years old, when I started reading the 18th century French philosophers: Montesquieu, Voltaire, Rousseau and Diderot, to the displeasure of my Italian-heritage family, of course…
Since then, I have been cruising through life, finding my spirituality in many other avenues, and with a constant purpose of bettering myself. It’s like I created my own-private religion, taking the beliefs from all over the place and leaving what I don’t morally value. And I have been living happy and fulfilled this way… Except that I don’t pray.
Or, should I say, I don’t pray a “registered god”. I have my own way of praying. My prayers are centered around the person it is destined to. My prayers are strong and powerful rushes of energy, my prayers are having this person in my thoughts and caring for them with all my heart. My prayers are empathy, as if feeling their pain myself could help relieving it for them.
They don’t need to be done in specific location, they don’t need a mantra or any formalization. They’re like the wind.
It is a very difficult thing to convey when sending a written note to someone, without sounding like a cult wacko.
I have settled with the phrase “you’re in my thoughts.” Although it is passive and only partially covering my intentions. At least, it’s acceptable and globally recognized. But I’m really curious, how would you express it? “You’re in my thoughts and something-like-prayers”? “You’re in my thought and non-religious-prayers”?
Please chime in!